1. Be Grown up
Which means be independent, take responsibility for yourself.
2. Intentionally select positive re-enforcement webcam girls
When you purchase books and tapes, movies and other media for your entertainment, seek those w/ strong, uplifting themes. Select those which nurture your spirit. Avoid as much negative messaging as possible, including other outside influences that will bring you down. For instance why would you choose to read a magazine article or watch a news program that leaves you depressed or angry? For those themes when negativity unavoidably invades your space. Find something to learn from it or something humorous about it.
“When someone hands you the thorns, find the roses
3. Live healthy
Energy and stamina are musts for perseverance. You need them for focus, resilience, optimism, self-confidence, clarity and intensity. You have seen from the above quiz how much each of these affects your perseverance quotient! See the appendix in “in the living learning system on “Cellular Regeneration
4. Ask “What is true” or not”? What do others think is true?
To make effective decisions, you must take the responsibility of perceiving reality as accurately as possible. Decision making is not a popularity contest and there’s definitely no guarantee that what the majority thinks or believes is compatible with the truth. This includes the people the majority regard as experts.
When you seek the truth, you’re being true to yourself. When you’re true to yourself, you nourish your will to persevere.
5. When Getting Advice
Consider the source!
If you want to shorten the distance from perseverance to achievement , you want to learn from the mistakes of others, rather than repeating them to yourself. And you want to use the methods that have brought others the success you seek. If you’re planning to climb Mt. Everest, who will you look for advice? The best source is someone else who has done it. If you want to pilot an airplane, would you listen to advice from Aunt Matilda who has never done anything in her more demanding than entering a bridge contest? Would you ask your accountant? You best friend? Or would you seek advice from someone who is successful Pilot? If you wanted to start a small business, would you seek advice from someone at work, your minister, a university professor, a corporate person, or from someone who is already successful in the business? And here’s a fascinating corollary if you are looking for a way out, an excuse to quit you need go no farther than Aunt Matilda, your accountant, the folks at work, etc. You’ll get all the negative encouragement necessary to put your dream back on shelf.
6. Avoid the “No Action” alibi. We’ve all been guilty from time to time if using convenient alibis for not persevering.
Eric Hoffer: Who had spent much of his life a “simple” longshoreman, is a great example of someone who didn’t let other people’s stereotypes, which he could have used as no-action alibis, prevent him from becoming a bestselling philosopher author. And Eric Hoffer says it well “there are many who find a good alibi for more attractive than an achievement. For an achievement does not settle anything permanently. We still have to prove that we are as good as we are yesterday.
But when we have a valid alibi, for not achieving we are fixed, so to speak for life. Moreover we have an alibi for not writing a book and not painting a picture and so on, we have an alibi for not writing the greatest book and not painting the greatest picture. Small wonder that the effort expended and the punishment endured in obtaining a good alibi often exceed the effort and grief requisite for the attainment of a most achievement. The important things is to be totally honest with ourselves, recognize the alibi for what it is and not make alibis a way of life.
7. Identify counterproductive habits or thoughts you would like to discontinue (Jealousy) Then Dump Them!
Being mentally or emotionally rigid means that you hang on to habits that no longer serve you, habits that can make you unproductive, frustrated, and unfulfilled. Examples of counterproductive habits that may reduce your will to persevere.
-Grousing about politics, work or the neighbors w/ friends.
-Blowing small aggravations out of proportion
-Dwelling in the past
-Worrying about stuff that may not even happen or that you cannot control.
-Viewing yourself as a victim
-Worrying about what others are doing or what others have
* Be True To Yourself*
Focus on what you can do, not what you cannot do. When you focus on what you cannot do, you get more of it. Keep your pace. It’s different from the pace of others. Forget the Jone’s, and don’t feel guilty of about moving ahead of some of your contemporaries. Remember the story of “The hare and tortoise” live the life you want you want to live, earn what you want earn, do what you want to do. Don’t be too concerned about how others are living their lives.
To help you identify and eliminate – Self Talk
8. Do this for your own share, your own peace of mind.
Carrying around the emotions of grudges disapproval hatred or disappointment is toxic to your spirit of perseverance. Wither the subject person is someone else or yourself, you are the one feeling wounded. You don’t hurt others when you hold hatred toward them, you hurt yourself. And you can hurt yourself seriously by allowing hatred to tester your consciousness. You cannot experience anger andjoy at the same time. So leave plenty of room for the joy!
9. Take responsible risks.
Without risk, there’s no reward. Risk avoidance dampens, the spirit, undermining the will to persist in the face of obstacles and reversal. The choice not to choose is probably one the riskiest choices you can ever make w/ zero upside potential.
10. Get support.
You deserve to be around folks supportive of your aspirations. All good phsychologist, counselors, coaches, teachers will tell you that you must have exposure to a positive environment. Napoleon Hill called it mastermind group. You call it Pinacle!
11. Don’t Quit
Perseverance is the insurance policy and common denominator for success. So powerful is perseverance that failure cannot exist in its presence.
When you feel yourself slipping, remember sparky school was all but impossible for sparky. He failed every subject in the 8th grade. He plunked physics latin algebra and English in High School. He didn’t do much better in sports. Although he did manage to make the school golf team, he promptly lost the only important match of the year. There was a consultation match and he lost that too.
Throughout his youth, Sparky was awkward socially he was not actually disliked by the other students. He wasn’t considered consequential enough for that. He was astonished if a classmate ever said “Hello” to him outside school hours. He never found out how he would have fared as a “Date”. In high school, Sparky never once asked a girl out. He was too afraid of being rejected.
Sparky was a closer. He, his classmates, and everyone knew it, so Sparky simply accepted it. But one thing was so important to Sparky, drawing. He was proud of his own artwork, of course, no one else appreciated it. In his senior years in high school, he submitted some cartoons to the editors of his yearbook. They were turned down despite this particularly painful rejection, Sparky had found his passion.
Upon graduating from high school he wrote a letter to Walt Disney Studios. He was told to send samples of his artwork, and the subject matter for the cartoons was suggested. Sparky drew the proposed cartoon. He spent a great deal of time on it and on the other drawings. Finally the reply from the Walt Disney Studios came. He had been rejected once again. Another loss for the Losser.
Sparky wrote his own autobiography in cartoons. He described his childhood self, a little. Boy Loser and Chronic Under Achiever. He was the title of Cartoon Boy whose kite would never fly, who never succeeded in kicking the football, and who became the most famous character of all Charlie Brown.
Sparky the boy who failed every subject in the eighth grades and whose work was rejected again and again was Charles Schulz.
Charles Schulz preserved. He succeeded beyond his wildest imagination. He learned and deserves that success. He had failed at everything else he had tried. He endured rejection. It took a lot of trial and error to finally find out what it was that he was supposed to do. But he never quit because Charles Schulz persevered, the world is richer. As Thomas Edison observed when after thousands of efforts to make the electric light bulb produced no illumination. “I haven’t failed, I’ve identified 10,000 ways this doesn’t work” by accurately viewing it as a learning experience, eventually Edison succeeded, leaving the critics and nay-sayer one of mankind’s most important inventions.
Charles Schulz, Arnold Schwarzenegger, Colonel Sanders, Thomas Edison, Aye Rand and endless list of other persistent great achievers found that success inevitably arrives for every person who perseveres. Learn from the people who did it. Let perseverance keep your goals alive and your dreams real!
Do what you love to do, stand up for what you believe in, make it a part of your life. Work toward if everyday remember with every “No” you are that much closer to a “Yes” and by learning from each defeat and staying the course, success is inevitable.